So I just noticed Chad had my blog open and I was like, “ugg!” The bright white and yellow just was not working. Uninviting. I’m not sure I even like it now, but I’ve toned it down with my favorite colors, orange and gray.
What My Father Says About Honoring Your Parents...
My friend recently resolved a conflict with her parents. They had different perspectives regarding their disagreement, the perspective of a parent and the perspective of a child. My friend’s vision was clouded by her hurts, so she could not properly see the love her parents have for her.
She wanted their friendship, not their discipline.
It reminded me of something I learned in my relationship with my father. He used to say, “you only have one father, you can have many friends. It’s my job to be your father first.”
Why do we want our parents to be like our friends? Because friends don’t usually disagree with us or rebuke us. We love praise and affirmation from our parents, but we don’t always love their discipline. This is contrary to what the Lord teaches us:
"For whom the LORD loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.” Hebrews 12:6
Scourges? Doesn’t sound very pleasant, does it? But it says He does it BECAUSE He loves us! Proverbs actually says you hate your child if you don’t discipline him (Prov. 13:24). Discipline leads to righteous living…
"Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it." Hebrews 12:11
We would be wise to receive discipline when it comes from those the Lord has put over us, whether that be a parent, husband, pastor, boss, etc. God is a Good Shepherd and sometimes must shepherd us with rebukes.
Further food for thought from the Scripture:
"Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise: "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." Ephesians 6:1-3
"Obey those who rule over you, and be submissive, for they watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you." Hebrews 13:17
"The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left [to himself] brings shame to his mother.” Proverbs 29:15
"A wise son [heeds] his father’s instruction, But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.” Proverbs 13:1
"And He will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse." Malachi 4:6